The lesson was this: if you do it right, people don’t come to your home for the food or the decoration or the plates that you are serving on. If you do it right, people come for your warmth and openness, your company and the company of others who love you, too.
It’s great to have a nice home, but it is no guarantee that anyone will want to come visit. Fancy food is nice, too; but it’s not the food that makes people want to come to your party. It’s you—your character, your affection, your love. That’s all.